I know that this is probably a silly thing to say, but it is ridiculously hard. I think that someone needs to come up with a book that gives parents some sort of realistic advice when things are really difficult. Like if your kid is acting up at home, you can go to the book and it will say “If your kid is being mouthy, then put your fingers in your ears and yell LA LA LA LA at the top of your lungs so you can regain power of the conversation.”
Okay so that might not be super helpful, and likely will just end up with you both laughing a lot on the floor, and no one will remember to do the actual parenting part. And I do realize that books suck, because picking a general topic and trying to apply it to specific problems makes it nearly impossible to apply to your child without changing it up. Then the question becomes, what do you change to be able to apply it to your child and their specific problems?
There is no answer to that. At least not one that will actually apply to everyone and that’s really the problem isn’t it? When something is stressing you out about your kid, about your ability to parent, there really isn’t anything that someone else can say that will make it better. Know one knows what it’s like to parent your kid, but someone else that is parenting your kid. Sometimes that means no one. I am grateful that I am not one of those people.
Still, when there are problems, and I can’t figure out exactly how to handle everything and I question my choice to even decide to have another one. Am I good enough to be doing this? Am I able to give her all the attention she needs when her little brother is here? There is no way to answer these questions right now. Perhaps someone out there will be able to give me some answers, or reassurance?